Reflections

You’ll Get There When You Get There

We often create our stress. Our internal dialogue can either keep stress at bay or elevate it into full panic. I've encountered many similar situations when I stayed calm and didn't go into blame mode but what was absent that morning was perspective.…

Reflections

Nobody Else But You Can Be You

Own your thoughts. Believe in your opinions. Trust your ideas.

And more importantly, ignore the trolls. Tune out the negativity.

Don't allow your worries about others' opinions keep you from doing, from sharing, from making, from creating.…

Imperfectionist Songs

If You Want to Sing Out, Sing Out

Cat Stevens composed and performed the music for the black drama comedy, Harold and Maude, which includs one of my favorite Cat Stevens songs, "If You Want to Sing Out, Sing Out."

The song is featured most prominently in the last scene of the film,…

The Imperfect Roundup

Imperfect Roundup #26

This week, we wrote about rebuilding endurance after breaking routines and the dangers of trying to do everything. There's a post on the difference between Steven Pressfield's territorial and hierarchical orientations, and we launched the Imperfectionist Book Club on The Icarus Deception by Seth Godin, which…

Reflections

Rebuilding Endurance

Whether due to a vacation, hard times, or a lack of motivation, there will be times when you lose your endurance. Your shoes will collect dust, your manuscript will go untouched, and you won't meet your goals.

During these moments, don't try to run a…

Reflections

You Can Do Anything, but Not Everything

Time is finite, but we treat it like it's infinite. Opportunities are infinite, yet we approach them like they're finite.

In our world of infinite opportunities, it's difficult to say no. We fear no because we're afraid of missing out. We fear no because we worry…

Reflections

Some Doors Are Meant to Stay Closed

"Each time a door closes, the rest of the world opens up. All we need to do is stop pounding on the door that just closed, turn around...and welcome the largeness of life that now lies open to our souls. The door that closed…

Imperfectionist Songs

It’s Only Fear

Alexi Murdoch is a songwriter and musician with a captivating yet calming voice, but to me, he is first a poet. I would say that he reminds me of Nick Drake, but that was only true when I first discovered his music. Now he…

Reflections

You Can’t Stop the Waves

When you avoid feeling your emotions, when you compartmentalize, when you tuck away something to feel another day, when you numb, when you use alcohol as a coping mechanism, when you avoid by working too much, when you blame others, or when you blame…

Reflections

Happy Regardless Of…

When I experience something negative or unintended, it is usually helpful to spend some time reflecting on the ways I may have influenced those events. How could I have done things differently? Did I make the right decisions based on what I knew then?…