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Nothing Absolutely in Our Power

René Descartes‘ Discourse on the Method is the source for the timeless quote, “I think, therefore I am.” In his treatise, Descartes outlines four maxims to act as his moral code, which includes an invaluable lesson for imperfectionists: “Endeavor always to conquer myself rather than fortune, and…

Perfectionism Reflections

(Almost) Perfect

In Linchpin: Are You Indispensable, Seth Godin discusses the problem with “(almost) perfect.” As we progress on a task or project, it will take more time and effort to improve. The time required to get from 95% to 99% perfect takes more time than it…

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I Am an Artist

Do you let negativity block your creative potential? I’m not a writer because I haven’t taken the right classes. I’m not a photographer because my photos don’t look like Ansel Adams’ photos. I’m not a musician because some critic hasn’t given me validation yet. I…

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Imagination over Knowledge

As perfectionists, we focus on knowledge over imagination. We latch on to knowledge because it can often be measured. We memorize vocabulary words, history facts, and dates of important events. We aim to get technical papers with our names on them. We strive for additional credentials…

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Nobody Else But You Can Be You

Own your thoughts. Believe in your opinions. Ignore the trolls. Don’t allow your worries about others’ opinions keep you from doing, from making, from creating. Nobody else but you can be you. Nobody else can bring what you have to bring to your art.…

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Negativity

The restaurant made a mistake with my order then told me it was my fault for not being clear. It felt like the man at the post office had a vendetta against me. I got trolled in (of all places) a botany forum. Someone…

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Love Yourself

We say yes as a way to show love. A perfectionist’s need to say yes is dangerous because it originates from the desire to gain acceptance and approval from others. It doesn’t stem from the self-compassion that is required to foster genuine relationships. Putting others first is not always…

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Are you Pretending?

You can spend a lifetime being someone else. That someone else is probably easier to be. People accept him more. He has a six figure salary, and “important” people admire and respect him. He drives a nicer car and has a white picket fence…

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Dwell on the Positive

One thought about your to-do list leads to worries about your kids. Concerns about your kids makes think about your parents. Then your health and your job. Oh, and all the emails and how your bathroom is a mess. Somehow all of that leads…

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Tell Me a Story

Yesterday, a woman told me that her favorite thing to do is to ask someone to tell her a story. She works at a shop selling eclectic t-shirts, stuffed animals, and other souvenirs, and she loves hearing the stories of how people grew up. She…

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“You Can Do Anything, but Not Everything.”

Your potential is limited if you say yes to every opportunity, every invitation, every project, and every new activity. Say no to the inner perfectionist that tells you that you’ll never be good enough if you say no. Instead, focus your attention on the…