Quotes Reflections

Rainer Maria Rilke on Loving the Questions

The answers to most questions are at the tips of our fingers. The digital encyclopedia we carry in our pockets is a gift. Almost everything we want to know is a Google search away.

But we often avoid asking the bigger questions because they are…

Reflections

Seeing versus seeing.

It's less about Seeing the Eiffel Tower than it is about showing everyone else that you've been to the Eiffel Tower. We get so wrapped up in taking pictures that we barely notice anything. We see but we don't See. We don't notice any…

Reflections

Share Every Day

I've been on a roller coaster ride with the level of commitment to this website over the past few years. I created it because I wanted to build a resource for perfectionists. A place where people could find the tools to get over their…

Failogue

Failogue: J.K. Rowling was the “Biggest Failure She Knew”

When J.K. Rowling was writing Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone, she was a single-mother, unemployed, on welfare, depressed, and even considered suicide.  And she, like many first-time authors, struggled to get Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone published. It was rejected by almost…

Reflections

Escape the Escape Artist Mindset

Fight or flight. As perfectionists, we almost always choose flight. We avoid. We run away. We escape because it iseasier than facing the risk of rejection, abandonment, and failure.

We escape trying new things because we don't know want to be bad at something. We…

Reflections

WebMD Syndrome

Definition: the tendency to think in worst-case scenarios with constant anxiety; continual catastrophic thinking

Yes, we've all done it: we feel a little sick, we Google our symptoms, and five minutes later, we have cancer. I call it WebMD syndrome, the tendency to attach our…

Gratitude Imperfectionist Poems Reflections

Your Unobtrusive Joys

Ella Wheeler Wilcox’s “Thanksgiving” from her collection, Custer and Other Poems, is a beautiful ode to gratitude and noticing. Can we express more gratitude in our life by noticing life’s details? Can we offer praise to those who do kind things for us and…

Gratitude Reflections

John F. Kennedy on Thanksgiving

George Washington proclaimed the first Day of Thanksgiving on November 26, 1789 during the first year of his presidency, but Thanksgiving didn’t become an annual tradition until 1863, when President Abraham Lincoln proclaimed a national day of Thanksgiving during the midst of the American…

Quotes Reflections

Be Hated for What You Are

We learn to respond to the expectations of others. Some of us get trapped in this cycle from childhood. Some of us learn later in life by focusing on external values, like money and material things. We become approval addicts, and live in fear…